Focus on the good stuff
We have a natural attraction to bad things, to bad news and this can create a fog through which we see the world. We can develop habits of seeing only negative things, we remember insults more than compliments, respond more to unpleasant things than pleasant things.
In our lives there is good and not so good happening all the time, if we intentionally look for the good and filter out the not so good, we can begin to change our outlook on life
- What is going well?
- What am I enjoying?
- What good things happened today?
If we can find even just one thing to appreciate during bad things, we can gain a powerful positivity.
Find humour in situations
Life is full of humour and amusement; it happens all around us. We mostly miss these things as we are preoccupied with a task, or with things happening. If we actively look for amusing things, things that make us smile or feel good, we find they are there.
Humour increases the feel-good chemicals in our body, reducing stress, improving wellbeing and memory. It can also shift our perspective towards the positive.
Gratitude has been shown to create positivity, reduce stress and make us happier, improves relationships and life satisfaction. We can begin by showing gratitude to others, it doesn’t need to be a grand gesture, it can be a simple appreciation thank you. Both the giver and receiver of the gratitude will benefit.
Look around for things to be grateful for, your kids, the birdsong, great colleagues, hot coffee. Things are literally all around us.
Start and end your day with gratitude, a quick review of 3-things to be grateful for, works powerfully.
To be grateful of others we must also learn self-gratitude. Reflect on things you’ve accomplished, how wonderful you are, your talents and skills. Allow ourselves to feel the gratitude, let it in and let it sit with you.
We can’t control everything that happens in life, but there are some things we can control
- What we watch and listen to – avoid the constant bad news that can cause the world to seem negative and bad.
- People we talk to - surround ourselves with energisers, people who lift you up, have positive energy. We can choose to call up, text, chat with those who have positive energy.
- What we say out loud – saying something out loud makes it 10x more powerful. So, say good things, powerful things.
A positive mindset takes time to develop, you may well already have many of the skills and actions above, and others you may need to work on. If we work at it every day, it will eventually become a habit, and a good one. It will replace the bad habits we might already have. Habits take time to become a habit, so stick with it!
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